Are you happy with your life, or are you feeling trapped? Many people are unhappy or dissatisfied with their lives, and a lot of these people think that they have no control over what happens in it. However, you have the power to change your own life for the better using your mind and your actions.
Many people live their life following social standards or expectations of family members because they believe it is the safest choice, but they are unhappy because they end up feeling trapped inside of these expectations. Take command of your life by doing whatever makes you happy, rather than doing what you feel like you should be doing based on what you see on social media.
Now, for fear of sounding too cliché here, I'll just say that perspective is everything. I find that television, and even social media, can send me down a rabbit hole of negativity, which greatly impacts my feelings of being trapped. If you are surrounded by negative noise (media, negative friends and family), then get away! If you and your kids are healthy, you have a roof over your heads and are fed, then you are doing pretty darn great.
2 bed house. I have DDs 5 and almost 3. DSS is 11. Sleeps on sofa every other weekend. Which means we have to go to bed at 10pm. Fine. But I dont sleep and being in bed that early when I dont nod off till 2-3am is torture. Had to wake DH 3 times last night cos DSS had turned the TV back on, loudly. The last time was just before 2am. Nothings been said about it. Constantly winds DDs up. (Dds are squealy pains as they all are but he winds them on purpose and frequently) has been telling tales all weekend but then wihin minutes backtracking and telling full story after trying to get girls in trouble.The xbox is on all fucking day. Call of Duty, other games I dont want my kids seeing, scary monsters etc on. Girls only have to go within 5 foot of him and hes snapping, shouting at them. House is small and Im tip toeing around a stropping pre teen whilst dh does nothing to curb behaviour. Every evening is filled with more xbox andWhatever dss wants to watch.Sorry just needed to rant.
That sounds horrible for all of you! Is there no way you can squeeze in a bed somewhere for DSS, or have one of the little ones in with you and give him their bed? It can't be nice for him not having a bed at his Dad's house. Re the constant computer games, it sounds like your DH needs to get a grip of that. It can't be good for the girls seeing that all weekend every other week! I'm not surprised you are in need of a rant!
How boring being stuck at your dads house in doors with a couple of squealing girls! Doesn't sound like fun to me, no wonder he's winding the girls up and who can blame him! Get yourselves down the park to burn off some if that energy! He might sleep better too.
DSS is also 11 and is going through a lot too, but the first thing I did when DSS came to visit us is knock the excessive screen time on the head. I told DH DSS is here to see you not E4 on loop. DSS will always try to get as much screen time in as possible. Now I just remove the batteries from the remote controls, we've decided on 2 hours of screen time for DSS and once that's up then I take the next opportunity to remove them. DSS has never said a word about it, he knows the rules. But when DH first came to live with me I didn't have TV, so DSS had no choice, so 2 hours must seem like a luxury and it's an obvious compromise to please DSS. Upshot is we spend a lot more time as a family than glued to screens. There is no way in hell we are having an Xbox it would drive me mad, plus DD would probably have a toddler meltdown trying to get hold of the controls from DSS. Going out is an absolute must, DH will do some one-on-one time with DSS and we try to get some fresh air if the weather is nice with a walk.We've got a 2 bed also, DSS has the top bunk and he's got posters up on the wall around there. It's his space in a tiny house. DD wakes up at 6am everyday so DSS has the opposite problem of a noisy toddler demanding attention from whoever every weekend morning. We grab DD and let DSS have a lie in until about 9 am, he's usually watching something on his laptop in his bed. DH will demand he's up and dressed not much after 9am so not to waste the weekend.
You haven't got enough accommodation for five. This isn't a discipline issue so much as a space issue. Agree with other posters - you need to spend most of the weekend out of the house being active. Could your DDs not spend some time with their father or grandparents when DSS is around?
DDs spend every other weekend with their Dad. We have all 3 kids on the same weekend because if we didnt, we'd never get any down time, any time to ourselves, or any time as a couple. As it stands we get 4 days a month to ourselves (Im studying full time with Open Uni too) The girls Dad wont commit to any more time with them (thats a whole 'nother thread tho) My Dad lives over a 100 miles away and my mother isnt on the scene. Their Dad lives with his parents, (which is why he cant/wont have them more often, they wont "let" him and he wont move out- however his parents are in their late 60's and exs Dad has had 4 heart attacks in the last 18 months) Also dont see why I should have to palm my kids off on someone else. We dont have the money to move house, not an option.Will run all suggestions past DH this weekend when we have some much needed down time.
Wow at 4 days off together each month, we don't get that all year! We live in a tiny house and I don't think it is surprising that you are all having problems getting on, it is hard enough with one child, I have to be out and about most of the day or I would go mad. It doesn't have to be expensive, just out for a walk etc. Is there any scope to extend/ rearrange the downstairs space so he has a little bedroom area? And could the tv be unplugged or something at night?
Meditation and getting out into nature are great ways to bring ourselves back into balance, especially if we can do them regularly. This advice should never be underestimated. Our natural world is an amazing companion in the face of feeling trapped.
After school, Mr. Dirksen and Jake walk home to Mr. Dirksen's house. As they reach it, a storm begins to come in. Mr. Dirksen shows Jake an invention that he is building in his garage. He calls it the Dirksen Intelligence Transfer System, and hopes that it will one day gain the ability to transfer intelligence from one being to another, thus eliminating the need for education or training. As he finishes explaining his invention, a bolt of lightning strikes the house, knocking Jake and Mr. Dirksen unconscious.
Jake wakes up and notices things are very different. He suddenly has an aching back and things look fuzzy. He looks across the garage to see himself looking back at him. The truth suddenly hits him: Mr. Dirksen's machine has caused Jake and his teacher to swap bodies. Mr. Dirksen (in Jake's body) informs Jake that he refuses to leave his student's body, and heads home to Jake's house. Jake (in Mr. Dirksen's body) follows, but is only thrown out of his house when his father does not recognize him and threatens to call the police.
While trapped in his teacher's body, Jake attempts to make life miserable for Mr. Dirksen in hopes that he will agree to switch back, but to no avail. Eventually, "Mr. Dirksen's" lessons to his science class prove so exciting that the impressed Principal Blanco praises him for them and declares him a model teacher. To celebrate this, Jake's other teacher, Mrs. Rogers, takes him out to breakfast, where she begins to fall in love with Jake in Mr. Dirksen's body and proposes marriage to him. She invites him to have a romantic dinner at her house where he can discuss the matter.
Soon, another lightning bolt strikes the house, knocking Jake and his teacher unconscious. When they wake, they are back in their bodies. Mr. Dirksen agrees to make his classes more exciting from then on and heads to his dinner date with Mrs. Rogers.
Melissa cuts Kevin off and ends their relationship. The only trouble is Kevin refuses to leave and gaslights her. The couple gets into an argument in the front yard, and Grace calls the police. Cameron shows up to console his co-worker and hide his very obvious feelings for her. They head to Pittsburg for a work trip and leave Kevin to play house with Grace.
Mary Ann comes to the house next and distracts Lauren and Grace long enough for Melissa to make her move and get the gun. Mary Ann calls 911 while Lauren and Melissa struggle over the gun. Grace grabs the gun and shoots her mother by accident, killing her.
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Agoraphobia (ag-uh-ruh-FOE-be-uh) is a type of anxiety disorder. Agoraphobia involves fearing and avoiding places or situations that might cause panic and feelings of being trapped, helpless or embarrassed. You may fear an actual or upcoming situation. For example, you may fear using public transportation, being in open or enclosed spaces, standing in line, or being in a crowd.
Agoraphobia can greatly limit your life's activities. If your agoraphobia is severe, you may not even be able to leave your home. Without treatment, some people become housebound for years. If this happens to you, you may not be able to visit with family and friends, go to school or work, run errands, or take part in other routine daily activities. You may become dependent on others for help.
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